I am lucky to be married to a man who knows how to cook, clean and iron his own shirts. He’s quite self-sufficient. In fact, if it weren’t for trouble matching his clothes and folding a fitted sheet, he probably wouldn’t need me at all.
Over the years, we have learned numerous things from one another – not from any formal lessons, but as couples do – simply from being around one another for enough time. For example, I have learned to put the toilet paper roll on the holder the “right way,” the first 15ish steps of troubleshooting my computer before asking him (an IT guy) for help, how to change a ceiling light fixture, and that you can enjoy a Phils game IF you sit in the good seats! He has learned how to wrap a gift without 1,000 wrinkles and 1,000,000 pieces of tape, that a crock pot (or anything with a cord) is not a gift unless expressly requested by the receiver, that some towels are just for show, and that you don’t have to follow a recipe to the letter for it to turn out well!
From the beginning, we’ve shared household chores in a non-traditional way. He enjoys coupon clipping and grocery shopping, but has allergies. So until a few years ago, he did all the grocery shopping and I cut the grass. When we both worked full-time, he made dinner as often as I did (ok, maybe he still does) and we shared cleaning responsibilities (ok, maybe we still do). It’s a balance that may make other couples scratch their heads; but it works for us.
With all that said, it’s unusual for Jeff to ask for something. But when we returned from vacation he began hinting that he’d like me to make a peach pie. So I put it on my To Do list. The hinting started getting less subtle, so yesterday – with the last of the peaches – I surprised him with a peach pie.
I must be honest and admit that making pies intimidates me, and not for the reason you may think. I have no trouble making pie crust. It doesn’t scare me in the least. In fact, I’d go so far as to say I’m pretty good at it. It’s the fruit fillings that get me every time!
In the past, no matter what I’ve tried – flour, cornstarch, tapioca – my fillings have always slid out of the pie with the first cut. I had some seriously bad pie mojo. But all that changed on vacation. We got some really yummy peaches at a farm stand on the way to the OBX so I couldn’t resist attempting to bake a pie. I googled ‘peach pie’ and looked at several recipes. I decided on one entitled ‘Peach Pie the Old Fashioned Two-Crust Way’ from allrecipes.com.
The recipe worked like a charm and my bad pie mojo lifted! I think I learned a few things about my sad pies of the past. Here’s what I did differently this time:
- I used room temperature peaches. In the past I am fairly sure I used fruit from the fridge. I don’t know exactly why I think this has an impact, but drawing on tidbits I’ve learned over the years, I know many recipes call for room temp ingredients (except when making a good pastry).
- I mixed the filling about 30 minutes prior to filling the pie, which gave everything a chance to meld, the peaches a chance to juice and the flour a chance to begin absorbing that juice.
- I waited until it was fully cooled before cutting it. When I made my pie on vacation I had an easy distraction – the beach. I made it in the morning and then we headed off for a full day at the beach and the pie had a chance to rest. Yesterday, I made the pie in the afternoon and then went to my Bible study group and Jeff worked his part-time job – so again, the pie had time to fully cool.
When I got home from church last night, I texted Jeff a picture of the pie and this is how the remainder of the text exchange went:
JEFF: What is that?
ME: What do you think it is?
ME: it IS pie
JEFF: But what kind
ME: What do you hope it is?
JEFF: Are you sharing?
ME: The question is are YOU sharing? I made it for you!
JEFF: I’ll share it with you
As I disclosed earlier, Jeff is very self-sufficient so it is nice to be able to do something for him that makes him happy and is unexpected. I was amazed at his restraint….he came home from work and did not have a piece of pie. And he didn’t even have one for breakfast with his morning coffee. He did, however, cut a “small piece” to take for lunch so that he could have another piece this evening. It is true what they say, the way to a man’s heart (or at least my man’s heart) is through his stomach!
PS. In case you were wondering, it is incredibly difficult to cut a piece of pie and pour a hot cup of coffee so that you can get some good photos and NOT indulge!